Page 121 - Liberal Exposition of Pranahuti Aided Meditation

Divinity, the smaller thing which we would like to get less attached are the problems of life.
Problems of life are personal and unique perhaps to each person according to his samskaras and there is no point in comparing that aspect of it and there can be no bodhayanti parasparam on that, except as to how you are able to solve a particular problem, somebody may share, if at all there is some similarity but each is unique to itself and no comparisons subsist. So we come to a position that bondages which we have chosen by which I mean apart from your own birth which is your choice. I will not digress there but then other things - your friends are your making, your wife is your making, your children are your making - these attachments are your own, nobody else has thrust them on you. Since these attachments are there, you get to know later that somebody has behaved or misbehaved, he has lived upto your expectations or anticipations or he has not, then you get a feeling of conflict, feeling of disappointment, all these things are there in life, each one is disillusioned after sometime. Slowly the friends drop off, surely new friends crop up just to fill up the gap but then you come to know that there is no other friend, finally you come to a stage there is only one friend and that is God. You try to pray, you try to pour out yourself before Him in your own prayer room, you definitely say this. There is no other friend with whom you can confide. There are many occasions when the husbands cannot talk to their wives and the wives cannot talk to their husbands freely. They would like to but they cannot. The same position is there between the son and the father, daughter and the father or the mother, between brothers, between sisters. Barriers are there; these barriers are basically things which push us to understand that these are all transient. Nothing is permanent, there is only one thing that is permanent and that is the feeling of the presence that there is somebody inside my heart who hears me, you try to develop intimacy with Him. That is the Viveka then the Vairagya, these are the two centers, these develop but then nobody gets stabilized there.
People go to the smashan - all wise, when they come back, perhaps one or two among them keep the wisdom of the transiency of the world and life. The remaining are lost either with their buffaloes or donkeys or men or horses or cars whatever it is. It requires a Kabir to maintain the serenity, composure, the balance while going to